When it comes to BDSM play, it’s quite common to come across
a gag ball. It’s one of the most popular sex toys people use to create a
stimulating experience, and they aren’t just for the wearers. They’re also for
their partners, helping build excitement and intimacy.
Like any other sex toy, the ball gag is not for everyone. I
understand the importance of identifying which practices work and which don’t
when it comes to bed. However, if you’re curious and feel stimulated just by
the thought of using one, there’s no shame in wanting to learn more about it.
There are different types of ball gags, and people have various reasons for using one. Let me introduce you to your next favorite sex
What Is a Ball Gag?
A ball gag is a ball made of rubber, silicone, or plastic
and attached to a strap or scarf. As said by erotic educator and founder of Organic Loven Taylor Sparks,
a ball gag sits behind the teeth, so the wearer keeps their mouth open during
bondage or other BDSM roleplay. You secure a ball gag behind the head by tying or buckling the strap or scarf.
Gag balls put the wearer in a submissive position. They also
limit them from talking, which is one of the many things that make BDSM play
stimulating. As I said earlier, ball gags aren’t only for the wearers. While
the submissive partner will feel the thrill of not being able to talk during
roleplay, the partner will also feel their dominance.
What Are the Different Types of Ball Gag?
If there’s one thing I want you to know first about ball
gags, it’s that there are many types of them. Knowing that it’s a ball attached
to a strap is the friendliest introduction to the sex toy. However, when you
feel ready to explore, you’ll be surprised (in a good way!) that ball gags can
make your BDSM roleplay even more exciting!
Ball gags use different sizes for balls. Of course, you must consider comfort, jaw cramping, and sensitive gag reflexes. Some balls also have holes, so wearers can breathe more easily and do less drooling. You can find ball gags in different designs, most with fabric, silicone, or leather straps.
Some gags aren’t ball-shaped. Don’t be confused if you find a gag shaped like a penis. Some also have O-shaped metal rings instead of
balls; others have attached nipple clamps and other detailed bondage
applications. You’re good to go as long as it keeps the submissive’s mouth open.
How Do You Use Ball Gags Safely?
“Safe” is a very important word in BDSM. When it comes to
ball gags, there are many things wearers and partners must keep in mind. Always start with having full consent. Like other BDSM applications, a ball gag can feel different to every person. Once you’re 100% sure that you and your partner are all in, consider the following safety tips as well:
Talk About Aftercare
Just like consent, discussing aftercare with your partner is
vital. After finishing the roleplay, it lets you know how to care for them so
you don’t leave each other uncomfortable. Tell your partner if you want to be
held or to get a glass of water after a scene. And however, if your partner wants to be cared for, work on it as well. Whatever helps you recenter yourself!
Set Safe Actions, Not Words
When using a ball gag, the wearer won’t be able to talk as
much or at all. So, instead of setting safe words, set safe actions to know
when you should stop, pause, or continue. This tip is just as important as
giving and asking for consent.
Secure a Clear Passageway
Perhaps the easiest fact to forget when using ball gags is
that wearers will also have difficulty breathing. Some ball gags are designed
for easy breathing, but generally, breathing with something in your mouth for
an extended period is challenging. The wearer’s nostrils will be their clear
passageway, so avoid using the ball gag if one has a cold or sinus infection.
Why Do People Use Ball Gags?
Just because you’re into BDSM doesn’t mean you’re into all
sorts of applications. But, for those who see a gag ball as an essential toy
during roleplay, it’s undeniable how it’s mentally and sexually stimulating.
Ball gags can mean giving up your control and power for the wearer and gaining someone’s trust for the partner.
When using ball gags, the partner should be trustworthy
enough to let the wearer give their power up. This means they know you will
keep them safe, and that fact can be sexually arousing, too. Ultimately, people
use ball gags for their desires and pleasure.
Ball gags are just one of the many ways couples can explore
BDSM. I see them as an inexpensive way to allow yourselves to explore more
about kinks and fetishes! Like other BDSM applications, anyone is free to like
or dislike it.
What’s certain is that ball gags offer a way of feeling dominant
and submissive that other toys can’t. The most arousing part, perhaps, is how
the wearer can barely talk. It pushes dominance and submission closer to the
edge, so it’s obvious why many find them a necessity.
If you’re now convinced that you need a ball gag in your
room for the next time you want to add spice to your sexual routine, I’m
excited for you! But never forget about consent, aftercare, safe actions, and
You don’t necessarily have to be into BDSM to
want to use a ball gag, either. You don’t have to use it with a dominatrix or
sadist. Ball gags can be a way to add some more excitement and pleasure to your
everyday life with someone you trust. After all, you deserve the best sexual
routines you can have! Whenever you’re ready, go out and find your first ball
gag from Twice Tonight, your number-one intimacy shop.